I’ll start by saying…put some respeck on yourselves people. How many of you value what is inside a persons head and heart rather than their body? Don’t get me wrong I think attraction is very important, it is the catalyst that allows a relationship to even begin in the first place. How many of you have been really attracted to someone and then they opened their mouth and you were disappointed? I know I have. Communication is how I decipher who a person is. I enjoy conversations because I can get to know what is truly in a persons heart. From one thirty minute conversation, I can tell whether you are kind, cruel, smart, stupid, a lover or a hater…”For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks” (Luke 6:45).
I do believe however that people need to practice the art of discernment because it not always what is said, but how it is said. What is the spirit behind it. Compliments pass over my head like clouds, obviously I hear what they say and I may take it on board, but I never get drunk off of the good things people say about me. Why? because the people who shout ‘Hosanna’ today could say ‘crucify him (or her)’ tomorrow. We live in a world where image is everything, last week I briefly spoke about people reducing their worth to likes on social media sites. It is easy to get caught up, I’m not gonna lie, I just wish that there were more people in the world who valued truth and righteousness. I wish people took the time out to figure out what type of person you are dealing with before rushing head first into a relationship. If we took the time to figure out what is IN a persons heart it would actually save a lot of heartache.
You can do that through initial conversation but also don’t ignore your intuition. We have been given feelings for a reason and although we like to dismiss them and say we shouldn’t be caught up in our feelings, there should be a fine balancing act between the words people say and your initial feeling about that person. Too often we listen to the words and dismiss our feelings. We could hear a man or woman say ”I love you” but deep down you feel they don’t. Don’t ignore the feeling. The truth of who you are won’t just be seen but felt.
I am all for taking pride in the way you look and looking after yourself but that shouldn’t be the only focus. The ancients believed in mind over body through the iconic statue that still stands in Egypt today. The Sphinx is symbolic of the head ruling over your animalistic nature. I love reading books and love other people that do too. Spend time cultivating your mind. Have something to talk about with the person you love because looks fade but your essence is forever. Let people fall in love with your essence which is the real you. If you allow people to value you for your body and then you give that value (your body) away, chances are they will move onto the next. However experiences can never be forgotten and even if the relationship is brief, the experience they had with you will not be easily blotted out of their memory. I love the song by R. Kelly “She’s got that vibe” because I think it embodies what I’m trying to say here, sometimes you can’t put your finger on it but you know that a particular person has just got that vibe. Well all I’m saying is that your vibe is your essence and in the words of Ralph Smart “Your vibe attracts your tribe”.