Is it me or have we become cyborgs within the past ten years? It’s like we can’t do anything without technology anymore, even dating! I remember when it wasn’t cool to be on a dating website. There was this sense of desperation when somebody said they were trying online dating…like they were the rejects of society. Now, I’ve meet so many people who are married to someone they’ve met on Matchmaker, Plenty of Fish(POF), Tinder, Instagram, Eharmony, Facebook just to name a few. With the rise in popularity of these sites, I’ve dabbled a bit, but not for very long. In my mind I have my own profile of the type of man you would find on these sites depending on which site it is. I also have my own personal gripe about men from Tinder or POF, from my personal experiences and from what I have heard others say. Unfortunately for me the quality of the men on there was disappointing and at one point a friend of mine and I would call the men from Tinder, “Tinder scumbags”. I’m not trying to disrespect anyone who found their man on Tinder, or if you are a man currently on Tinder, it’s just my own warped opinion from my personal experience. I’ve also heard about people posting fake profiles. Fortunately I don’t know anyone that this has happened to personally, but I have seen videos on YouTube of women who use make up to literally transform themselves. I mean these people look completely different, it’s amazing! I can see how this can be daunting for the man and there was even a case in America where a man wanted to divorce his wife because he thought she was ugly without make up. Filters on pictures also have a big part to play in this deception game too. I’m not saying you can’t use them, (because I do from time to time) but try to keep it 100!
Another issue I’d like to touch on it the ‘Like’ button particularly on Instagram and Facebook. Would you be offended if your significant other likes someone else’s picture if they are of the opposite sex? Please share your comments below because my answer would be yes. I had a friend who’s boyfriend would regularly like other girls pictures on Instagram and these girls looked nothing like her at all. This made her feel insecure and question why he was with her in the first place. I just think it’s a big disrespect for a guy to be preeing another girl’s photos. It’s bad enough if you catch him looking at someone else while out together, but sitting there ogling someone’s photos on a regular basis is a big no no! In fact I’m weary of men who are always on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc. I’m aware of the importance of social media if you run a business, I don’t mind if you have a purpose for it, but if you are just idle for idle sake then I really don’t have time for that. Sometimes women deliberately post pictures of themselves half naked or wearing skimpy clothing to generate more likes and the term for those type of photos are called “Thirst traps”. An entertainment group called Dormtainment have touched on this subject in their funny video ThirstAgram. I could go on, I mean don’t even get me started on the direct messaging that emerges from the ‘like’ button, but we’ll be here for days!
So I pose another question, if you met your other half on a dating website would you expect them to delete their profile from that site once you become exclusive? I definitely would. I mean what are you still on there for? You must be looking for the next best thing and I’m not about to be anyone’s pit stop thanks. Facebook is fine because you have family and old friends on there, as long as I know them it’s all good (LOL I sound like a nightmare I know, but I’m not I promise).
Do you expect to know the password to your partners phone? My answer is no, in my opinion you should be able to retain some individuality, more importantly you should be able to trust the person you are with. The moment you betray that trust is another story however.
So that’s it for this week folks, as usual please let me know what you think about any of the questions above. In the meantime between time, keep up the love walk.
4 thoughts on “Cyber Dating”
Dating… not even sure what to say. It used to be a case of boy chase girl, girl plays hard to get, boy chases girl some more etc… Not sure what happened but things are definitely different now. Internet dating I think is like meeting someone on the street, library, church, university etc… these are the same people on there anyway. However, there is a stigma still attached to finding your man or woman online… maybe there shouldn’t be as it seems to be working for some people. Personally I wouldn’t, but good luck to anyone who is out there seeking their other half. It will happen at the right time… just open both eyes and ears, there are signs if the person you are talking to is not one. Simply… LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP. Peace
Love those last words there Tomi, “look before you leap”, spoken like a true sage.
Internet dating has its pitfalls. I have had some strange experiences from girls who have approached me online. My 2 favourite dates are when my date happened to be a he/she and when out of curiosity I happened to type in “bank, Brixton, prison , Nicola fraud ” into Google when my date went to the toilet and lo and behold she was an ex convict….. Lol (try typing the same words into Google and see what comes up).
I would Advise any female to stay away from dating websites. Reason is that any good looking/ presentable guy can get girls easily without going on a dating site. If they are on a dating website and are good looking and presentable then you have to be wary as they might just be looking for extra fun while they have a girlfriend somewhere.
In regards to liking girls pictures, I see no harm in it. I only like girls pictures who are fully clothed or wearing a nice outfit though as I appreciate when someone makes an effort. Any boob or bum or show and I keep it moving swiftly.
You should not demand the password to your partners phone. If you feel you have to demand it there is no trust there and you are better off being apart.
If they offer it to you then fair enough. But if you feel the need to go through their phone line Colombo then it’s best you separate as the trust is gone.
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****but I have seen videos on YouTube of women who use make up to literally transform themselves – Botched and DR 90210 as well !! Disgusting !!!
****man wanted to divorce his wife because he thought she was ugly without make up. – He never really loved her !
****I just think it’s a big disrespect for a guy to be preeing another girl’s photos. – I don’t agree, its good to admire – only if you can leave it at that.
****but sitting there ogling someone’s photos on a regular basis is a big no no! – Surely this is lust ! Should be curbed once detected ! Else it spreads !!!
****don’t even get me started on the direct messaging that emerges from the ‘like’ button, but we’ll be here for days! – I’ve got a whole year to discuss this with you ! lol !!
****Do you expect to know the password to your partners phone? – there shouldn’t be any in the first place ! my candid opinion !!
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