Age ain’t nothing but a number. The first time I heard this expression I was about 11 years old listening to Aaliyah’s album which was coined with the same expression. During that time she must have been around 14/15 years old and this particular album was written and produced by R.Kelly. It was later revealed that Aaliyah had a relationship with the then 27 year old R.Kelly and in hindsight you can see why he wrote those lyrics. There was a 12 year age gap between the two of them and although she was underage at the time if she was say…25 it would not be a problem.
This post is about age boundaries. What are your age limits when it comes to dating and relationships? Does age even matter to you? I know quite a few women my age that would be comfortable dating a man well into his 50’s! Thats a bit of a stretch for me but I guess it depends on what he looked like at that age and whether or not he was a good father to his children (he’s bound to have children at that age right? If not it would certainly trigger a bunch of questions in my head). I would now say ten years older and maybe 3 years younger.
I’m particularly interested in women who date younger guys, I would love to hear your experiences, was there a big difference in how he expressed love for you? Did you ever question his maturity? Are you still in the relationship, and if not would you do it again? I once had a relationship with a guy that was 5 years younger than me. Initially he had a lot of energy and was really enthusiastic (as they all are LOL) towards being in a relationship with me, I was apprehensive but he didn’t mind the age difference in fact that was all he had experienced as he said he didn’t like younger girls. Many times I did question his maturity because of some of the things he was into but I didn’t know if that was because of his age or because he just had a general interest in those things, either way I tend to accept people as they are. Anyway that relationship did not end well. Would I date a younger guy again? I would prefer not to but never say never. However on the flip side I never seem to get into relationships with guys that are more than 3 years older than me, not on purpose…its just not been my experience.
There are plenty famous women who date, are in relationships or married to younger men. I mentioned in my last post that Denzel Washington’s wife is older than him. T.D. Jakes wife is older than him. Tina turner is 76 and her spouse Erwin Bach is 60 (16 year age gap). Madonna was 10 years older than Guy Ritchie. Whitney Houston was 8 years older than Bobby Brown, and the list goes on. It’s amazing how when women date younger men they are called a “Cougar” but when men do it, there’s nothing. Don’t get me wrong I prefer the man to be older than me but how come when you have those 20 or even 30 year age gaps between older men and younger women nobody says anything other than the WOMAN must be a gold digger!
Obviously the relationship between R.Kelly and Aaliyah was wrong and it was kept under wraps. No doubt his name has definitely been tarnished as that apparently wasn’t the last time he went for a younger girl. So its Cougar vs Paedophile but only if the girl is underage, once she is of age its Cougar vs ???
Why the double standard?